“Be yourself, but always your better self.” – Karl G. Maeser
On the 7th online webinar of the 9-week project on Personal Development, Nicoletta Papadopoulou, Master Life Coach and NLP Practitioner explored the topic of Self-Motivation.
The speaker explained how the only true motivation is internal and how different types of communication can affect this aspect positively or negatively.
A restrictive communication for instance is when somebody orders someone else what to do. This kind of demand can often result in procrastination, avoidance or doing just enough to get by, as the human subconscious tends to ignore orders. In this kind of situation, people do not feel response-able for their decisions and they can be on drama games, blaming others and finding excuses for not being successful and happy.
The self-talk, which is the way we speak to ourselves, with this kind of motivation is fear-based: “Do it or else…”
“NOTHING GREAT WAS EVER ACHIEVED WITHOUT ENTHUSIASM” – RALPH WALDO EMERSON
On the other hand, a constructive communication appears when people have the choice and accept the consequences of their decisions. In this case, they are response-able and they do things because they choose to and want to, as they picture the personal value that comes from doing so. The self-talk is essential in transforming the “have to” in “want to” and anybody can feel motivated by picturing and visualising the outcome.
As the speaker mentioned, in Neurolinguistic Programming techniques when individuals want to feel motivated, they need to see themselves as the task is already completed, but they need to visualise this situation with all the 5 senses, by thinking what outcomes this result will bring to them in so many different ways.
As an example, when people want to accomplish something, they can imagine themselves being applauded for, they can see their loved ones being proud of them, they can taste a nice rewarding dinner, and so on…
This exercise will make the person focus on the positive solutions, instead of thinking about the obstacles.
“EXCELLENCE IS THE GRADUAL RESULT OF ALWAYS STRIVING TO DO BETTER” – PAT RILEY
Nicoletta showed also another technique to the participants related to colour and positive thinking.
“WE CANNOT DIRECT THE WIND BUT WE CAN ADJUST THE SAILS”
The ODC community is proud and grateful for all the amazing participants of this 9-week project.